05.28.07
l’amour
I shall profess that my knowledge of French is limited to ordering a hot chocolate or coffee with milk, and thank you, goodnight and…have a good trip? LOL. But there’s that word, l’amour, and phrase, je t’aime…I love you. Things just sound more romantic in French, no?:)
It’s been a while since I’ve blogged about love. Erm, a whole month, I reckon, at least. Now before you start rolling your eyes and think, ‘Goddamn, another one bites the dust‘, bear with me. I shall try to minimize the mushspeak and adoring gibberish.
Lately I’ve been wondering how people figure out that the one they’re seeing, or is engaged to, is The One. Has anyone found their soulmate yet, just you know, to compare notes? So I know what to look out for, and see if all the warning signs are there *grin*.
Does the feeling, bam, hit you one morning? Or does it sneak up upon you out of the blue? And if you have figured it out, when is the time to react to it?
There’ve been so many stories of people getting engaged lately, mostly from the Kiwi’s circle of friends and acquaintances. No no, not dropping hints, just ponderings. What’s the ‘normal’ age to be engaged/married theseadays?
For our parents’ generation I think the trend was to wed at what, 25 onwards? Hearing stories of people finding love and jumping headfirst into marriage kind of worries me. That’s not too far off from where I am now! o_O But maybe I too am jumping the gun.
But what I can say for sure is, I’ve found someone who fills my thoughts and heart; whom I blatantly adore with all that I am…someone who makes me laugh and whom I cannot wait to talk to every single day when it’s Bug Time (7:30pm, GMT +8–take note I am very unavailable on MSN at that hour!)…someone who makes me feel safe and comfortable, but not in a bad way…someone who I can forsee a very fun-filled, exciting and yet indescribably lazy future with 
And I miss him so. Sigh.
Raaaaaah. I actually really have no idea where this post is headed. So I shall end the torment and abort this post here.
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Edit: There’s this block quote from Paulo Coelho’s book The Pilgrimage (I think–I devour too many Coelho books for my own good)–I cannot remember what page exactly so bear with my half-arsed attempt at referencing.
“It’s good to get a second opinion on a lot of things but when it comes to matters of the heart, forget the rest of the world, forget expectations and forget the norm. When you decide to love, love with all your heart and love completely, for there is no other way to love…”
I think I have found my new mantra for living. And loving.
jean` said,
May 29, 2007 at 7:34 am
go get a tagboard
Sero said,
May 29, 2007 at 10:14 am
why does it require my email to post a comment? =.=
anyway, just wanna drop a word or two (mayb more). i personally believe in desitny, that if i’m destined with the one i’m with now, we will be together eventually. but then ofcos i’m not saying i should just sit back and rock my bum. i would most definitely agree with wat Coelho said about “loving with all your heart and completely”. once u’ve decided to be with someone, just give it all u got 110%, and u wont have any regrets.
if at the end after all u’ve done, and it still doesnt work out, by then you’ll know you not meant to b together. at least thats wat i believe, diff ppl might say otherwise.
u may wake up 1 morning thinking , yes..she/he’s the one. then wake up the next morning thinking “holy crap…am i on the right track?” in other words having doubts. it is inevitable to doubt your partner when in a relationship. but i guess its when both partners overcome those doubts that they’re finally able to accept each other and tie the knot =D
aims said,
May 29, 2007 at 10:16 am
Oh how i adore Coelho too!!! Love that quote! When i find The One or when I decide to love again, i’ll make sure I love with all my heart and love completely… *winks*
Btw, miss you heaps babe! Do take care
meldee said,
May 29, 2007 at 1:25 pm
jean’: wordpress won’t let me get one!
got no html-modifier thingamajig…so sad right? sigh.
sero: lol thanks for still dropping by, even though i have no tagboard and a comment thingie that demands email addresses (to protect me from spam, so i says)..it’s true what you said, if you don’t give with all your heart how can you expect someone to do the same right?:) hehe what a perfect gauge, to know when you can overcome doubts together then it’s meant to be. thank you for your words of wisdom
aims: i’m sure you will find someone who will love you the way you deserve, my dear
hehe we should start a coelho fanclub. btw i have his anthology–like the flowing river! there’s a new book out too…and i miss you too! *hugs*
entwined said,
May 30, 2007 at 3:03 pm
woo! i love wordpress to bits, but my only beef is NO TAGBOARD!
hopefully they’ll improve the system.
as to the soulmate thing, for me, it is just a feeling that everything is so right. in your heart, you KNOW that no matter what problems you have, it is not worth losing the other party for. when you fight, you try to put aside all anger (after a bit of shouting, of course…we’re all humans
) and come up with a solution together, instead of letting the problem fester. it’s like…you found what you’ve been looking for and you’re completely satisfied with what you have and you can see both of you being together forever. 
that’s what i feel and think. i might be wrong. maybe EVERY couple feel like this but in the end still break up anyway. :/
rachel said,
May 30, 2007 at 7:33 pm
i think that to KNOW that that person is the one is merely a choice..i mean,seriously,think about it..the only person who’s gonna be able to tell u that it’s the ‘right one’ is yourself…
when u think u know..when u think ur aware..when ur certain enough to make a decision…thats when it becomes right..
cause thats when u have the guts and the ‘balls’ to take the plunge..
but ofcourse there’s always the ‘connection’ factor to consider..i believe that there’s only a few out there in which u can be emotionally connected with,regardless of whether u are in a relationship..
but sometimes,it doesnt mean that that person ur connected with is someone who u can spend the rest of ur life with..
i guess it depends on ur mentality..
how do u picture the rest of ur life..?how do u see urself in the future?
crap,im ranting.sorry melody!*grin*
meldee said,
May 30, 2007 at 8:19 pm
entwined: ya man! no tagboard, wtf!
about what you said, yeah i think every couple when they first start out think that theirs will be the greatest love affair of all time, but things don’t quite often end up that way…my fear is not being able to tell what is workable around, and what just cannot be changed. tricky hey? forever is such a scary word though…ho hum.
rachel: haha no worries la, blogs are supposed to be spots where you can rant and ramble. why, i even have a whole category! all my blog posts are random ramblings lol. hehe even so your words do make sense, but like you also said, it’s up to the individual.
man! when did things start becoming so complex. -_-” i wanna be 5 years old again.
Bill Compton said,
June 5, 2007 at 3:54 am
Hi Jim. Photos i received. Thanks
meldee said,
June 6, 2007 at 12:02 am
o_O